Imagine not having to ‘try’ at life?” ~ Adamus Saint Germain

Wow. I haven’t blogged here for a few months. I know. I haven’t tried. No shoulds, musts or goals. As my friend Adamus Saint Germain likes to say “Goals suck!” Wise angel.

When I first created this website and blog, I didn’t want the discipline or commitment of writing daily, weekly or monthly. Only when inspired. You see I’m a recovering Capricorn. A recovering perfectionist who use to get “straight A’s ” in school, always met and surpassed sales goals at work and got the dust bunnies to do a disappearing act at the drop of a hat with company coming.  I thought, like many, that by controlling and maintaining outside reality and the illusion of perfection, all would be well – and happy.  The key to the universe. Not!

Fifty some years later this lifetime I’m finally realizing that all IS well whether I do another damned thing or not…. That energy will continue to serve me when I get out of the way and out of my mind.  That life and living CAN be easy and way more fun when you take your hands off the steering wheel and stop the backseat driving.

If you’re wondering WTF I’m going with this, stay with me…

My last blog was about doing renos on my home.  I felt guided to start without the money to do it but just took it one room at a time. I had also previously committed to go to an  important  consciousness workshop in Kauai in March again based on guidance not my bank account “reality”  None of this really made any sense in the  fiscal “cents”. All very spirit driven just one choice at a time.

My mind was telling me that when I returned from Kauai, I better get busy and get the house back on the market for spring. I’d better make it perfect and finish those painting touch ups. Get the yard cleaned up.Get new photos. Get a new realtor. Figure it out. Plan. Process. Proceed.

In the meantime I thoroughly enjoyed myself in Kauai with the friends, the food, the beauty and the inspiring seminar with Crimson Circle. I was living and breathing in the essence of Me!

Shortly after returning, I had a phone message. A couple who had viewed my home in the fall (sans renos!) were coming out from Calgary and wanted to know if the house was still for sale. They came, they saw and they offered to buy. All within a couple of weeks. No realtors. No complicated contracts or commissions.  No drama. Easy!

Just last week the deal closed and my son and I will remain living here, enJOYING  life in the Okanagan until the end of summer – rent free, no debt, abundance all around. I’m amazed right now at all the friends who ask “Where are you going? What will you do?” I know that I will continue to breathe, choose life, trust in my Self  and allow the NEXT to unfold with ease and grace. New adventures await!

All IS Well!  :-D

 

 

“You can’t take your old baggage with you into the New Consciousness!”

~ Jim Self, Mastering Alchemy

Well it’s 2012 and my first post for the year as I come up for air… You see I’ve been literally down “the rabbit hole” of home renovations for the last two months. I woke up January 1st inspired and energetic to do a “clean sweep” of my home and it morphed into painting every room, new flooring and definitely my life with  new  ”aha’s” !

So time to take a deep breath, turn a fresh page for March and share what insights I’ve gained from this experience…. 

Number one would be embracing and diving into the resistance I had to “doing the work”! As some of you know, I have been wanting to sell my home since my husband’s passing more than 3 years ago. It’s an 18 year old home and like everything needed some updates. Quite frankly I would have preferred someone else do the work! My husband was a true handyman and could build/fix anything. I didn’t think I was capable and you know what I’ve learned? I AM strong and powerful  (and Hardward store staff rock)! There is always good guidance available. Just ask!

As well there is tremendous stuck energy in the dance of avoidance. Just do it. Like eating an elephant, I took one room at a time. All I could mentally/physically manage and that worked. Small baby steps and you will be finished sooner than you think with that daunting project! This is the essence of life coaching. You are one step away from living the life you dream. What small step can you take today to get started?

Now I’m also a recovering Capricorn  who hates chaos so I allowed “ordered”  chaos room by room as long as I had one room that had some semblance of order to make me feel sane. I often had to breathe through the mess knowing this too shall pass as I stepped on carpet  tack strips in the night!  You have to have chaos first for reordering and  allowing new beauty in your life.

Of course the other metaphor here has been literally cleaning the cobwebs of my life, letting go, throwing out the past! As I scrubbed each wall for painting, vacuumed the copious spiderwebs that festoon my high ceilings, I had to go into nooks and crannies that haven’t been visited in a long while. Poking, scraping, cleaning old layers of dirt and sponge painting (Just say “No” to wallpaper!) Kind of like our dark aspects that don’t want to be brought to the light! The process can feel yucky and mucky but so fulfilling creating  clear new space. Space to breathe and create again!

And carpet? Talk about sweeping the dirt under!  Ahem, I could have grown a small garden on what lay beneath… :oops: I know Adamus Saint Germain has an exercise in his Interdimensional Living Course to lie down and “smell” the different layers of consciousness in the carpet.  Yup, it’s all there – including new puppies! It doesn’t disappear and better to to become conscious and aware and not live in denial of what doo doo lies beneath…

So often in life we “decorate” and primp and paint over old layers of pain and crap that never gets examined. Kind of like putting pink icing on bullshit as the expression goes for “positive thinking”. Not that we have to “process’ for years. Just recognize, acknowledge and allow it to surface and release with love and compassion.

So yes, with home renovations you can pay professionals  to do the work… But  when it comes to that interior reno for yourself there is nobody home but you!  And you ARE a the Master Carpenter in your own life!   ;-)

 

I love this! And still learning this… Learning to say Yes to myself and what feeds my soul and No to what feels like “feeding” others!

This takes discernment and true grit! I dare say most of us, especially the women reading this, were brought up to be “nice” and take care of others needs and desires before our own. Putting every body else first.

I was certainly raised this way and by a mother who’s mantra was “I give therefore I Am.”  Her whole self image was wrapped up in what other people thought about her – and us!  Yes a loving, giving women but by the time she was sixty, she had nothing left to give to herself and died a slow death of Parkinson’s disease. I remember once asking her if she noticed side effects of the drugs she was taking, and she remarked that her only brother, my uncle had been over and “she didn’t want to get up and do anything for him”.  Oh wow! Truth. The meds were only balancing out her own internal imbalance that had created the dis-ease… I doubt she connected the dots.

With such a role model, you think I would be more vigilant about my own needs. And I have. But it’s been a battle. Constantly checking in to find out what I want and what makes me happy. And it’s been a journey of awareness. When the conditioning in our society is so strong to make others happy first, boy it takes courage to step out of that matrix. You get called selfish. Again – and again. You get called a bitch. Or a Gritty Angel!  ;-)

It also takes courage to dare to live your own life and find out what you really, really want. Personally it’s taken me years to be honest with myself about my own needs and wants and put myself first. I realized and still do sometimes, that I really didn’t know what I wanted and needed that to be the quest above all else.

Sometimes its a process of removing what isn’t working in your life first, saying no to what doesn’t serve you to leave space for the unknown to show up. I find I usually know the “no” intuitively with the niggly feeling of resistance, “I don’t wanna”! I get in trouble when I ignore this and try to go along with the person or pack.

I find getting out of the mind helps and into your heart. Feeling what brings you joy and saying yes to more of that. It’s not usually “stuff”,  but experiences. Experiences that make you feel alive and expanded. Clear and connected. Empowered. Excited. That “Christmas morning feeling.” In love with life – and yourself.  If it feels good, say yes!  Don’t think about it. Take a deep breath and do it!

As I say Yes more and more to Me and stop caring about what others think or say, I’ve noticed more flow. More abundance. More energy. More synchronicity. More of Who I really Am. And that feels damn good!

Hell Yeah! Bring it on.

 

I only ask to be free. The butterflies are free.  ~ Charles Dickens

I was sitting working on my laptop at the table last week when a sudden movement caught my eye… wtf? A black  butterfly was furiously beating it’s wings again the  side window pane trying to get out. It could see the sky and sense it’s freedom but stuck with an invisible barrier it couldn’t comprehend. Every moment or so it would pause and then go back to its incessant struggle to get out. I grabbed my digital camera to snap a quick pic and then come up with a way to help it. With a basket and plate, I was able to capture it and carry it out to the deck. Releasing the lid, this dark beauty soared out of sight with dizzying speed. Freedom! Ahh…

“Mmm,” I thought to myself regarding the significance and “meaning” of this sign as I posted it on facebook? I have lived in this home for over 17 years and have never had a trapped butterfly before? A bat yes! Butterfly no. Butterflies of course have so many meanings for transformation, awakening, freedom. The journey from cocoon, caterpillar to butterfly. The imaginal cells that Deepak Chopra speaks of. Often an analogy for the pain of death to an old world and rebirth to something new.

 What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the Master calls the butterfly.  

~ Richard Bach

No question with my house for sale and I ponder an unknown future as a widow of 52, freedom can be both scary and exciting! After living in a wonderful, safe environment for many years venturing out into the world and creating a new life seems a bit daunting… Cocooning seems way more comfortable!

While it’s easy to say we want change and freedom, the reality can be a tad more challenging as we age. We accumulate stuff – both physical and emotional. But to quote Jim Self from Mastering Alchemy, “We can’t take the old baggage” where we’re going. And I believe some of us have had old baggage we’ve been carrying around for many, many lifetimes! Time to put the load down. Are we willing to let go of what doesn’t serve us anymore?

The other metaphor I get here was despite the butterfly sensing it’s freedom, it couldn’t see the clear barrier in front? I’ve heard a similar story about a fish tank that has a piece of glass in the middle preventing the fish from swimming to the other side … when the glass is removed they still stay swimming in the same corner! Sometimes we don’t recognize that it’s an illusion or simply an opportunity to try another door? We often just try the same old, same old techniques to get out of our boxes and when they don’t work, give up! Rather than coming from a fresh “new think” place. Perhaps stepping to the left will lead us to another door or another direction rather than beating ourselves up against the same wall?

A couple days ago another butterfly was trapped in my home. Mmm…..

Stay Tuned!

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